Thursday, December 23, 2010

So There's That: Healing Through The Holidays

If you are one of the many people who have bittersweet feelings or emotions during the holidays, I hope this blog will be of some help to you as we embark on yet another holiday season.

During the holiday season, I speak with hundreds of people. Whether it be through personal readings, enrichment courses or casual conversations, and a good portion of clients this holiday season seem to be sharing in with the bittersweet stages of the holiday season for quite a few different and very valid reasons.

2010 was a very, very hard and difficult year for so many people. Money that was readily available for gifts and holiday travels last year and the year before isnt that plentiful for quite a few people this year, so there's that. Alot of people are also very concerned about their livelihood in 2011, so there's that. Let's not forget the many of us who have lost someone very important to us during the holiday season and those emotions and feelings are ever strong and powerful especially during this time of year, so there's that.

Many of us have lost people who we held very dear to our hearts and moving forward with life when God calls one of our loved ones Home is never easy. But as we all know from experience, life does go on, we move forward because we don't have a choice in the matter. When we do move forward, we often feel alot more freedom during the healing process, and new emotions of courage and strength surrounds our Spirit. This is a time when our Guides & Angels are doing all they can to make sure we keeping on the same page and not veering off our charted life plan and delaying or shelving our the real reasons why we are here: our life mission and purpose. If you've lost a loved one and are feeling the loss especially hard during this time of year, the biggest healer can often be to just get out of the house and go do something, whether it be volunteering at a reputable charitable organization (check out if you need a jump start to finding some worthy charitable organizations who are paving the road for healthier futures for all of us), going to a library to help a child learn how to read, or going out for a holiday meal with a friend -- regardless, sometimes just getting out of the house can be the biggest way to let go and enchance the healing process through the holiday season.

2010 was a very uneasy year, but 2011 will be better in some ways. We all have to realize that the recession that we are all currently experiencing didnt happen overnight, and it's not going to leave overnight either. We all need to stick together and allow it to run it's course, and things will improve. Sometimes gradually, other times gruelingly slow, but improvement will be shown on a variety of levels in 2011. We must all remain positive and hopeful as this will help the universal energies that surround all of us to be more precise and helpful during the process.

While there are countless ways why one may feel depressed this time of year, there are also plenty of hearty ways to understand just how blessed you really are. Together as a big spiritual family, we are given so much direction and guidance not only from our Guides & Angels, but from the very people who love us the most. This also tends to be a time of year where families bury the hatchet and start over from a clean slate. Understand that many problems that one may have with other family members often comes from love, not hate. Repair what you can, and move forward without looking back. With as many blessings as we all have in our lives, 'tis the season for remembering them all and reciting them or writing them down to read whenever you may feel upset or indifferent about the season.

God, your Guides & Angels and so many people in your life truly love you for all that you are. If you are going through changes, don't hide them -- share them with your family and friends. In doing so, this can prevent further or future confusion which can lead to arguments and painful family silence that is both damaging and haunting. You are loved by so many, whether you feel it or not, it's the truth.

Love yourself with the love that you freely give others. Let some of that love reach the inner depths of your heart as it brightens your soul and radiates throughout your Spirit.

Sending you many blessings this holiday season,


PS. See you in the New Year!

Friday, December 3, 2010


Dear Friends,

I recently did a show on 'Conversations with Christopher' that had to do with bullying. I asked a couple of weeks in advance for all of you to email me your own personal stories and struggles that had to do with bullying. The letter below I read on air and I've received so many requests from listeners asking where they could read the letter. With permission from the author (Ingrid; who is one of my greatest friends) I'm posting it on my blog to help others who are going through or have went through the pain of being bullied, and to know that there is life out there and ways to heal yourself from painful experiences.

Thank you Ingrid, and to the many others who contributed to this show by emailing in their challenging stories of pain, hope and life.

To those of you who missed this show, here's the archive link to it:

God bless,



Unfortunately I have had the experience of being bullied throughout my life, as a child as well as an adult. Even though there was nothing "wrong" with me on the outside as in any physical traits, which would make an easy excuse to bully someone, I always was the person who was different. I stood out for some reason.

It has meant terribly lonely and isolated periods in my life, often resulting in me having to start over somewhere else. Being bullied gives you the feeling you're never safe, feeling scared all the time, always waiting for the next bomb to drop. Physically you are just drained, tired and depressed, always on high alert, energy that you could be using for other things that are important when you're developing.

I adjusted myself many times out of survival, but there is a thin line between adjustment and self betrayal. It meant for me even losing myself more than what was taken from me by being bullied. I therefore learned that I always have to stay true to myself, no matter what. Giving in to being bullied or becoming one, is self betrayal and there is nothing more damaging than that.

I considered suicide at a very young age, below ten years, surprised I even knew what it was. I decided that I would never give in to that, because by giving in, I would let the bullies or my opponents win, and that was something I definitely didn't want.

Living with the consequences of bullying meant experiencing difficulties in evolving myself socially. Like starting relationships with people due to trust issues, the fear of opening up or really feel free to be myself. Because of low self esteem I felt like I had to step up in friendships, as if I had to "prove" that I was really worth a friendship or relationship.

Sometimes it even feels like a life sentence, even now after some time has passed. I'm not saying that my life didn't work out because of the bullying, but the vulnerability and the scars it left, were picked up by other predators, even with all the time and energy I took to heal. Apparently the scars of bullying remain visible. Bullies always find another reason to target someone, so it has meant an ongoing fight and struggle throughout my life.

In my opinion bullying is abuse and a crime. You can be bullied mentally, physically and even spiritually. It's that damaging to your body, mind and soul, it could kill you. It is that serious. Nobody wants to go through this, we all want the same thing: to evolve, to learn, to experience, to grow, to love and be loved in an accepting way. It's obstruction of a person's natural development, which can result in drastic choices like suicide.

When you are being bullied you don't want to give any more attention and energy to it than it's already taking and you're sometimes inclined to accept it as long as it's "tolerable". This is very difficult to determine, because to do nothing is just an encouragement for them to see how far they can go. By tolerating bullying you might end up pushing your boundaries further and further.

To people on the outside, bullying might seem like innocent teasing. However, kids and young adults might not know or understand boundaries yet and they can go on and on until something terrible happens.

If the bullying goes on too long or is that intense and traumatic, you can find yourself in a place where you do not feel like yourself any more. Connecting with yourself is almost impossible because you feel cut off from yourself, who you are and want to be. It's almost as if the non acceptance of others is a huge part of you and you start rejecting yourself. This alone is enough to cause a lot of despair and at which point life is almost unbearable.

Using the affirmation: "the world's a better place with me in it" and "I have as much right to be here as anybody else." helped me many times to uplift my spirit after a rough day of dealing with all the abuse. It might seem a bit strong, but when non acceptance is all around you it does shield you from the negative energy and pushes it away.

Bullying is about power and control of a social situation for instance in a classroom, at work or in a family. The most encounters I had with bullies are the ones who operate in a group, a bully alone is much less powerful. From my experience there are mostly one or two persons that lead a number of people astray within a group, by having them engage in bullying. These people are being manipulated and are allowing themselves to be used as a harmful instrument against someone else. With apparently no real identity of their own, they are far from the truth about themselves.

Then there are the bystanders, the ones who witness it all, but decide to do nothing about it, because they don't care or are glad that they aren't the ones being sought after and/or do not want to get involved. Which gives the bullies and their accessors the chance to make a person's life a living hell. Those people should be aware of the fact that even when the bullying energy is not aimed directly at them, the abusive energy is all around and therefore affects everybody in it.

Those who engage in bullying might feel that they are vindicators, but spiritually they're just setting themselves back. By putting others down, they are putting themselves down, even if it may seem like all is going well for them in the outside world. This is no comfort for me, because it would be so much easier if people would make the choice not to do it, so we can all evolve and move on quicker to the same goal.

Bullying is a problem of all ages and nationalities, there are so many "reasons" why bullies feel they can pick on someone and get away with it. They often know which person to pick: someone who is "low" on social status, who people most likely will not stand up for, hasn't learned to defend themselves and is not likely or capable to say or do anything about it. They can sense that someone hasn't fully accepted him/herself yet and this triggers them to target this opening.

Being different brings out the biggest fear in a lot of people, namely to be labeled an outsider, outcast and therefore not to belong. Most people want to feel safe and an easy way to do that in their belief is to join others in a group and attack those who "mess" with their sense of security.

A lot of people can't accept a person who isn't like themselves. They're mostly focussed outbound, connecting only with what they can see on the outside. They don't consider the effects of their behaviour, justify their actions as if it were a fact of life and someone's own fault for being attacked. They feel you should adjust yourself and being different in their view is just a way of seeking attention, or not being able to get by with what is expected in a social system based on their own cultural or religious beliefs.

People who are that insecure, consider and use others as a reflection of how well they are doing and let themselves be dominated by the rules of a group, which in the prehistoric times meant survival, but is totally outdated nowadays if you ask me. Ofcourse it's your own responsibility to fit in and to do what is asked of you, but never should it be expected that you change in order to fit in. To be different can be an amazing asset to a group, work place or a society, but people have to be willing to appreciate it.

It's a shame that people are so focussed on those things that set us apart in stead of what connects us all. If they were to let go of their own insecurities, they would be able to see how much they could benefit and learn from someone who is not like them. Even if you don't like someone or don't feel comfortable around someone, you have a choice to leave them in their own self worth.

There is the belief that bullies get bullied themselves, at home for instance, and are just looking for an outlet for their own pain and the pressure they are under. I'm sure it could be true in a lot of cases, but bringing pain to others is hardly a good way of coping and in my opinion should never be tolerated.

Acceptance is something to strive for, not merely tolerance, because tolerance leaves an opening for negativity, since you can also tolerate that. Really accepting yourself and others is what gives freedom to us all. It's a process in which we all must take part in order for it to succeed.

Being bullied is not who you are but merely a challenge to overcome and nothing more than that. Going through life being bullied puts you in a survival mode. Merely surviving is not a life, but if you want and do survive, there is a possibility for healing and growing stronger BECAUSE you survived.

The only thing you know when you kill yourself, is that this life is over. It may seem like freedom, however, lessons unlearned or unfinished might mean you have to try again. So although it may seem like a way out for now, it could prove to be no more than just a postponement. Most importantly, you will never know how wonderful your life might have turned out to be after overcoming the bullying, what you would have accomplished and what kind of wonderful person you would have become.

I'm so glad Christopher and Trish did a show together on this sensitive subject. Being bullied is still covered in so much shame, which isolates someone being bullied even further. However, it won't go away by itself. After so many incidents with young people taking their lives for not being accepted for who they are, I hope that people will start to understand how serious it is and how terrible someone's life can be while having to go through this.

I also hope that people will speak out the next time they witness a bullying situation. To stand up against bullying is standing up for yourself and what is right. Ofcourse you can't expect others to fight your battles, but when someone is attacked, we basically are all under attack. Bullies will always find someone new to bully, next time it might be you or someone who is close to you.

Author: Ingrid

Thursday, October 21, 2010

The Sign

I did not write this, but it was passed on to me. It really touched my heart, and I thought it might touch yours too!!! Enjoy :) Christopher

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: "I am blind, please help." There were only a few coins in the hat.

A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words. Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy.

That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were.
The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, "Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?"

The man said, "I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way."
I wrote: "Today is a beautiful day but I cannot see it."

Both signs told people that the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind.

The second sign told people that they were so lucky that they were not blind.
Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?

Moral of the Story: Be thankful for what you have. Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently and positively. When life gives you a 100 reasons to cry, show life that you have 1000 reasons to smile. Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear. Keep the faith and drop the fear.

The most beautiful thing is to see a person smiling… And even more beautiful, is knowing that you are the reason behind it!!!

If you appreciate this message, please share. You may touch someone's heart today and forever.

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Getting Rid Of The Weeds In Your Spiritual Garden by Christopher Reburn

It's healthy for all of us to take routine inventory of our lives every so often. This is also a great approach to figuring out which areas in your life may need some improvement, further work and study, and plain things that are just not working for you any longer, and also key figures and people in your life which may not be in the healthiest of company, and those who may be taking way too much of your energy from you.

We begun to plant our spiritual garden in this lifetime long before we ever took our first breath of life on this earthly plane, and each and everyday we continue to water and tend to our garden. Within our spiritual garden are all things possible including our current goals, and all the nutrients we'll need to continue our journey. Every once in awhile, some weeds will begin to grow in our garden which can bring chaos to the other levels of development and growth within our divine center, and that's when we need to take full inventory of our garden, which important nutrients to keep, and which to remove once and for all!

Such is the case with all things in a reality sense. The truth is, there are always going to be people that come in and out of our lives for any number of reasons, as not everyone we meet is destined to be a part of our destiny, and occasionally we need to take inventory and put on our gardening gloves and pull some weeds!

When you can clear through and get rid of all the weeds in your spiritual garden, you'll notice that your garden will flourish to all new heights and a higher state and sense of awareness, both spiritually and intuitively. It's also a great personal accomplishment when you are able to get rid of things in your life which no longer hold an active meaning or purpose within it.

Be confident in who you are, and know that everyone makes mistakes, it's part of learning, living and loving. While you continue to allow your spiritual garden to grow and be nourished daily, take inventory of all things you want to remain in your garden, and get rid of the rest. START PULLING THOSE WEEDS!!!!

Blessings of friendship and love to you always,

Christopher Reburn

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Universal Connections: The Art of Living in God's Time by Christopher Reburn

We all want things to happen in our time, but it's often best when we let fate and destiny do their jobs. We all want what we want for various reasons, and sometimes those reasons are not always healthy or logical. Sometimes we set goals for ourselves that would take 10 people a year or more to accomplish, let alone just one person.

This is why it's so much healthier and spiritual to live instead of in your time, but in God's time when everything is possible and all logical and realistic goals and visions that you have will result in development which can help you to manifest all that you desire.

To get something from the universe, we have to give something to the universe. This is something that we should be doing each and everyday anyway. For example, when I wake up every morning the first thing I do is commune with the universal energies around me, then I send the universe as much healing energies as I can muster up. Then I ask for daily guidance and direction to help me reach all of whom I'm intended to reach that day, and then I seal it up with a prayer for the universe by focusing on specific areas of the world that are going through horrible circumstances and ask that all of the healing energy be directed to the highest good, and then I start my day and I'm ready to rock!

Instead of always putting a timeframe on things, I tend to live my life very naturally, as I know I'm protected and constantly guided and directed by both my Guides, Angels and God -- but I live my life in God's Time, as I know whenever I am meant to accomplish something or do something, it will happen -- perhaps not in my time -- but in God's time, and this is a healthy approach to life that more and more people are catching on to!

"We need to find God, and he cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature - trees, flowers, grass- grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence... We need silence to be able to touch souls.” Mother Teresa

Sending you blessings of Peace, Prosperity & Healing,

Christopher Reburn

Monday, September 27, 2010

A Place In The Sun: Don't Sweat The Small Stuff!

While there is so much negativity in the world, there is far more positive energy out there for all of us to energy. When a negative person comes into your life, try to understand the situation and source the best that you can, and then move forward. Don't try to help a negative person who is only interested in their own doom and gloom, as if you invade too much into their situation, you'll soon find yourself on the doom and gloom side of things. It's an unhealthy place that you do not deserve to be in!

Most people who are negative are very lost souls, and they have no other emotion to share with the world, except their negative outlook on life. Some of these people have tried to succeed in so many ways, and have either failed or given up on themselves and that has led to their negative ways of thinking, and how they project their own morals and energy into and onto others. Who enjoys spending time with a negative person? NO ONE!

Being positive is our only way to succeed, both in life and as part of our spiritual journey. When we are positive, we allow so much extra sunshine into our soul, and it puts infinite blissful energies around our spirit and the spirits of others we come in contact with.

There comes a time in life when you just have to stop sweating the small stuff, and not worrying about what every single person thinks about you. As with being a part of any general society, people will either like you, love you or hate your guts, and their precise reasons for the emotions they feel about you may not be clear to you, or clear to them either for that matter.

I remember a long time ago, while I was still in my teenage years, when someone negatively criticized my work because they were more interested in hearing a fairytale reading opposed to the truthful reading I gave them. Naturally, I was upset as no one had ever approached me before in such a negative fashion. Thank heavens my Grandmother was there to help sort me out. I remember her telling me 'As you continue to set out on your spiritual journey, you cant get all wrapped up in what everyone thinks and take it to heart. Don't sweat the small stuff, that's all this is! Everyone's always going to have an opinion and people will criticize you especially when your doing well!'. Those words from my Grandmother removed all of the energy from this situation and healed me to continue my lifelong journey of helping others. Thanks to my Grandmother, I've learned that there will always be many personal challenges, but if you work hard and do right, you will always arrive and will always hit your mark. My Grandfather once told me 'The easiest way to fail is to attempt to please everybody'. Isn't that the truth! Though I always put forth my best efforts, occasionally my best isnt good enough for everyone, but I know I've done well and that's all that matters.

I attribute my Grandmother as one of my main sources of strength, and of course my Grandfather who is in the Spirit World now. Without them it would have been a very difficult process growing up with the gift and being unsure and confused until I understood everything that was needed in order to gain further strength, guidance and direction.

My Guides & Angels have always taught me to find my own special place of spirituality just for me. I found this place early on in my life and though it has been a challenge more than a few times during my life to keep myself in this place, it's a place I wouldnt leave for nothing or no one. It's a good place, a place of knowing, a place of acceptance and a place full of endless amounts of patience, courage and strength. A place of spiritual oneness where mistakes are alright and time is my friend. Since I found my own state of spiritual oneness, I'm able to communicate my work and visions with the world and hopefully inspire a few people along the way as that's what I constantly find myself hungry for and working towards.

I'll be taking some time off to spend with family, so this will likely be one of my last blogs until later next month.

On of my Grandfathers favorite quotes: 'Gossip is the smoke that comes from the dirty tobacco pipes of those who diffuse it; it proves nothing but the bad taste of the smoker.' -G. Eliot

Lots of Love, Light & Blessings, and thanks for reading!

Christopher Reburn

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Focusing On The Present, Looking Toward The Future & Letting Go Of The Past

With everything that's going on in the world, sometimes it's easy (as empaths) to take in so much extra draining energy that can fill your channel to the max, and then that energy can sometimes make a person question themselves, their journey, their gifts and so on.

This happened to me about five years ago. I was almost at 'burnt out' mode. The schedule was out of control, and I wasnt blocking out enough 'me time', I became absent from all outings and friend get-togethers, very much focused on my work, and my work alone. While I still let my work lead my life, and I'm still very much a 'Duty First, Self Second!' kinda guy, I've still found ways and time to focus on other avenues of my life, my friends, family, etc. This is a very healthy place I find myself in now! :)

We need to focus on the present, and stop spending too much time dwelling on the past or the future, as when we do that we dont get to enjoy the present, which truly is a present and a blessing in disguise if only we can see it in that light. Even through the difficult times in life, we still realize that we are alive and that we are blessed in so many ways -- too many ways to count. Focusing on the present helps to let go of the past, and allows us alot of additional energies to look forward and toward our future.

I believe we all have bright futures ahead of us. Even if your past or present seems clouded and uncertain, please know that sometimes the best decision we can make in life is to walk away from something that just doesnt work for us anymore -- rather that be a dead-end job, an unhealthy relationship, difficult and draining friendships and so on -- as these can be painful blocks that keep us detoured from our target and where we need to be in life.

Understanding who you are and why you are here is something you already know deep within your soul, as that energy always surrounds your Spirit.

Focus on the present, while also realising that all you'll ever need for your future is within you now and always has been. All the strength, courage and relentless energies you are putting into your life in helping the lives of others will come back to you ten fold. Release painful memories and events from your past. Dwelling on them truly can block you from enjoying the future, and most important, the present.

Enjoy life -- even through the rocky times, always know that there is light at the end of the tunnel, and that light always surrounds your Spirit even when it may feel too dark for you to see it -- it's there and will always be!

Live your life!

Love your life!

With Love, Light & Blessings

Christopher Reburn

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Spending Time on Your Spiritual Journey

One of things I often hear from clients regarding their spiritual journey is the following statement:

'I don't have time in my life right now to devote to my spiritual journey, gifts and mission!'

Whenever I hear this it's almost like listening to sharp nails down a chalkboard, because no matter how busy we may think our lives are, there is still time in a 24-hour day that we should have time to devote to ourselves and our spiritual journey and direction and then comes the process of elimination.

1) Write out your entire daily schedule of events. Everything that you do from the time you wake up to the time you to go bed.

2) Notice anything that can be shortened or eliminated altogether? Spending a bit too much time online or on the phone or at the gym?

3) Find ways to cut corners in your schedule to allow more time to be spent on your spiritual journey. Certain things in our daily life can waste time when we should be spending the time on more important matters.

4) Write and map out your schedule every Sunday for the new week that lies ahead. Block out time needed for meditation, connecting with your Guides & Angels and understanding your spiritual mission.

5) Soar like an eagle to the highest good of your spiritual purpose! Now that you've found some new gaps in your schedule, fill them in with spiritual goals and time that is needed for your own spiritual growth and development.

Just another exercise that I've used over the years that has helped me tremendously, and I know it will help you!

Be sure to leave your comments on my blog page!

With Love, Light & Blessings,

Christopher Reburn

Monday, September 20, 2010

There comes a point....

There comes a point in your life when you realize:

Who matters?
Who never did?
Who won't anymore?
And who always will?

So, don't worry about people from your past!
There's a reason why they didn't make it to your future!

Enjoy life and enjoy your freedom!